Originally Posted: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/seven-things-stop-doing-if-you-want-your-wife-back-stvhn/
Written by Steve Horsmon
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on local television, blog radio, telesummits, and podcasts all related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men. He provides 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites including his own blog.
- Stop asking questions and demanding explanations.
- Stop initiating long, heavy conversations over and over again.
- Stop interrogating them about everything they say and do.
- Stop trying to impress then and make them pleased with you.
- Stop reacting to everything from a place of resentment and anger.
- Stop texting them about anything emotional or relationship related.
- Stop talking to their friends and family about them.
- Start spending quality time with quality people doing quality things.
- Start learning about confidence and insecurity and how to increase one and reduce the other.
- Remain kind, considerate and compassionate toward them at every turn
- Be cooperative but not a push-over.
- Calmly engage in conversations about how the separation or divorce will go.
- Organize your financial records and finances and know where you stand.
- Become an expert about the divorce law and process in your state and county.
- Gently guide the uncomfortable conversations about child custody.
- Allow yourself to imagine your life as a happily divorced person.
- Keep all of your options open.
- I will emerge from this challenge and be proud of who I am and how I responded.
- I may or may not be married to them for the rest of my life and that’s okay. I will be okay.
- My marriage does not define my identity, my value or my worthiness.
- I will use this time for learning how to become the best version of myself – no matter what happens.
- I will be a positive role model and lead myself and my family through this with patience, honesty, strength and confidence about my future.
- I will own the role of defining who I am, what I want and where I’m going in life.
