Trust and fear are principal ingredients in the life of each of us. They are the keys to understanding both persons and social systems. When trust is high, relative to fear, things go well. When fear is high, relative to trust, they break down. When trust is high we transcend our apparent limits and discover our awesome potential. Trust transcends fear — it allows us to be personal and to discover each other. Trusting with fullness allows us to create our own life. We do this in the following ways:
- by accepting ourselves for who we are;
- by being mindful, aware and conscious so that we can realize our ability to actually be ourselves and open our lives;
- by recognizing our intrinsic nature and coming to the point of inter-depending and inter-being.
Being is not an existence, it is a process of becoming, and it develops in a climate of trust. Searching for ways to connect with each other is partly a search for our own identity. We can trust each other to see the other as whole, unfiltered, unmasked beings which can help us to be more comfortable with ourselves, this in turn allows us to see the other as an “experience: in seeing and feeling.”
Genuine intimacy is a pervasive human want. In trust and intimacy, we are able to show our vulnerability – our capacity to be wounded. When we trust each other in depth, then you will not hurt me and also I cannot hurt you. Our inner calm can come from our trust in ourselves and our trust in each other. Genuine intimacy is a calming state because the risk of hurt is minimized.
Our search is to learn how to join in creating a relationship that transcends what each of us may be or do alone (synergy). This creation allows each of us to be ourselves in fullness and to relate in a way that continues to release our love and to express it. To manage this is to let the process happen, to release the constraints — to be all that we can be.
Caring, sharing, intimacy, and depth, transform us. They are more than friendship. These happen as we grow. It is being into each other’s flow and rhythms. By sensing each other’s essence we experience an emergence of higher trust.
